What turns you on?
Is it following orders? Pleasing your goddess? Being humiliated, cucked, or ignored? Is it the sends, the utter sacrifice of handing over your hard-earned money?
Do you long to hear the words “good boy”? Does a disdainful “loser” make your pulse race?
Is it the thought of her taking total control? Holding the keys to your cage, the pin to your debit card?
I’ve had a number of conversations recently where the lines were blurred. They called themselves finsubs, but really the financial side was not the draw. It was foot worship. It was being bossed around. It was ridicule.
Etc.
I said to one, “you’re a sub, not a finsub,” and that was a revelation to him.
Just because there is money involved doesn’t mean the money is part of your kink. Sometimes it’s just the gateway.
And that’s fine.
Many dommes (myself included) do pro-domme and findom.
But it helps us to know what you want, what you are, what is part of the kink for you and what is simply the gateway into it.
Does sending turn you on? Does watching your bank balance drop make your heart race? Does giving gifts make you swell with pride and purpose? Do you long for TPE?
Congratulations, baby, you’re a finsub.
If the money isn’t part of the pleasure, a core part of the power exchange, but simply something you are spending for a service, you’re a sub looking for a pro-domme.
Both are valid. Both are different. Know yourself and approach dommes accordingly.