Gather round, kittens. We need to have another talk.
This time about some sub-on-sub crime.
Yep, that’s right. I see y’all out there, participating in the same bullshit society forces on submissive men. Shaming each other. Shaming yourselves. And then partitioning submission into tinier and tinier boxes.
Those other guys aren’t really submissive, I see some of y’all arguing. Because they get pleasure from humiliation or because they shy away from shame or because they quit and come back.
Most subs aren’t as good-looking as me, some of y’all (audacious as hell) DM me.
Probably some loser in his mom’s basement.
Probably can’t get girls.
Probably society was right.
Excuse the hell out of me, but fuck that shit sixty-three ways to Sunday. Fuck it when society forces it on you. Fuck it when we dommes uphold it. And fuck it all to hell when y’all put it on each other.
Have you thought about what you are doing to your own soul when you drip with disdain toward other submissive men? Have you thought about how much that knife you aimed at their heart is headed straight toward yours?
When you say you aren’t like other submissive men, you are implicitly agreeing with every stupid societal trope that says submissive men are less. Are worse. Are ugly. Are undesirable.
And within this kink, there is space for you to explore those feelings, that kind of rejection, those humiliations—safely, consensually—if that’s your thing. But using those beliefs to rip each other’s self esteem to shreds in public spaces and domme DMs isn’t consensual kink. It’s nonconsensual cruelty. It’s boring, run-of-the-mill unexamined participation in the narrow categories society loves to box us all into.
If there is anyone who should be able to stan submissive men, it’s a submissive man.
Reminder: submissive men come in all shapes and sizes and levels of success with women and in life. Reminder: lots of people live in mom’s basement and that’s fucking fine. Mind your business. Reminder: “getting girls” is a not a measure of your worth as a human being and we’re people, not things you “get.” Reminder: submission looks different for different people, and you don’t own the definition.
In short: maybe if you stop judging the hell out of Dave, you can stop judging the hell out of yourself too. And then we can bid farewell to u/deleted for good and you can just go ahead and live your truth.