{"id":317,"date":"2026-01-22T16:19:20","date_gmt":"2026-01-22T16:19:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yourgoddesspandora.com\/?p=317"},"modified":"2026-01-22T16:19:20","modified_gmt":"2026-01-22T16:19:20","slug":"so-you-want-to-be-my-sub-heres-how-to-show-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yourgoddesspandora.com\/?p=317","title":{"rendered":"So you want to be my sub? Here\u2019s how to show up."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Don\u2019t bankrupt yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You being a dummy doesn\u2019t serve me. That just serves your own fantasies. If you do yourself financial harm, you will never truly be mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do what you say you\u2019ll do when you say you\u2019ll do it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We can discuss funishments if you like to be punished, but if you say you\u2019ll do something and don\u2019t do it, don\u2019t expect to be punished. Expect to be blocked<\/em>. Expect me to lose interest. Expect to spend six months like my former task sub, begging endlessly to be allowed another shot and never given one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Assume good faith.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If there is more than one way to take something, assume I meant it in good faith. If I don\u2019t answer your text for awhile, start from the assumption that I\u2019m busy or sick, not that I\u2019m punishing you (unless otherwise discussed). Not everything is about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communicate.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want<\/em> to know if I\u2019m pushing too hard. I also want to know when you are weak af. Every piece of info you hand me goes into making this more fun for us both. You cannot drive me away by expressing your boundaries or your adoration. Put those fears where they belong: in the trash.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be generous.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Show up. Give freely. We are not a fit if you need me to chase you or force you to send. We are not a fit if you think sends entitle you to anything we haven\u2019t explicitly agreed to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Show up for yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m a MILF, not your<\/em> mom. If we are playing together, I will hold space for you. I will hold structure. I will make decisions within the parameters of our dynamic. But you<\/em> still have to decide your own boundaries, budgets, etc. You still have to regulate your own emotions. You still have to take steps in your own journey and follow-through with what you are asked to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oh, but you want more? You want to be my favorite? Then:<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Have a sense of humor.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play along. Be a good sport. Live to make me laugh. When I ask for a video of you twerking or tell you to beg another sub for a photo of his feet, put your heart into it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bring your creativity.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tell me your ideas. Tell me how to torment you. Share those little (or big, scary) fantasies. Some of my favorite<\/em> play has come from my own spin on an idea a sub brought to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be on a quest.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have things you are working toward. Work on yourself regularly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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