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A day or two ago, I played a game with a man who loves a little public humiliation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I sent him a photo of myself in a challenging pose: on my knees, feet toward the camera, hand on hip, a slight twist in my body. All feet and curves and tights with hearts of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDuplicate it,\u201d I told him. \u201cTry to take your own photo with a pose like this.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His first attempt earned him a second attempt. And then with his second photo in hand, I told him I wanted to take it to a vote. I\u2019d post the photo in our Discord server<\/a> and we\u2019d let the group decide who did it better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The game was very obviously rigged. For my win and<\/em> our mutual pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The dommes did not disappoint. He was teased mercilessly. Fondly. Publicly. Laughing emojis and laughing people. The atmosphere: jovial. His heart: racing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone\u2019s day was a little better because of kitten\u2019s kink and courage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Very much including his day.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I think about humiliation, this is one of the things I think about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joy. Laughter. Play<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think about the ways that teasing can make a person feel seen. How making others laugh can make them feel they belong<\/em>. They matter. Their silliest, most vulnerable parts are a gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think about how so many of the things we do on the \u201csilly\u201d side of humiliation are simply giving permission to play. To make animal noises. Cosplay a ballerina. Wear something that makes us feel goofy or vulnerable. Be silly–all things that are off the societal script for adults, but that I think many of our souls truly need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This isn\u2019t the only way to play with humiliation in BDSM, of course. But it\u2019s one I love because what I find in it is an expansiveness. A way for someone to step off those scripts for a moment and play. Stop performing at adulting or masculinity or seriousness and just be themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that play can feed their joy as well as their arousal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think that\u2019s fucking beautiful.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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